Quiz: Am I depressed? 21 posts • Page 1 of 3 • 1, 2, 3. Authored by Gillian Harvey Reviewed by Dr Sarah Jarvis MBE. I'm almost at the point now where i think i should just end the marriage and start a new life. Share this conversation. I saw my husband every day. I see people hang out all the time and go to lunch together, I just sit by myself like usual. She wanted to know how to overcome loneliness in her marriage. I am so lonely and lost.” Do you feel the same way she does – lonely in your marriage, lost, insecure, disappointed? Hello, My situation is complicated without writing an extremely long post so I will try to stick to the key points (which is still pretty long...sorry). Jump to Latest Follow Status Not open for further replies. When I found myself at the very sobering place of loneliness in my marriage, I thought of so many things that could be the culprit for my feelings. What can mere mortals do to me?” – Hebrews 13:5-6. Me, my well is dried up. If you’re worried you might be suffering from depression, it’s important to seek appropriate help. Reply Link. Maybe you got married thinking your life would be more complete and fulfilling. Now i don’t care if I live or die. I fall emotionally constantly and am battling. No real life friends, 2-3 good online friends but I don't play with them often. its been 7 years of my marriage but the loneliness kills me. I am unhappy and lonely but perhaps - foolishly - I hope that this will improve one day. Category: Mental Health. I have wanted to get out for many years now but I never have the money to leave. I've made so many financial mistakes in the past and can't forgive myself. Going through the following list can function as a kind of “loneliness test.” You’re still exhausted when you wake up. Link. Lonely in my marriage. I know this is common, but we don't even have any kids, yet my frustration is unbearable, sometimes we can hardly stand each other. I get up in a cold sweat after 15 years of marriage, in an empty bed, dark room. My husband and I can't seem to communicate. … no matter how much you sleep. I'm so lonely in my marriage. Hi. Show Less. I'm 32 and been married for 7 years. I feel so lonely and disconnected from my husband and I can feel myself pulling away from him. “I am so depressed and lonely in my marriage,” one of my clients was telling me the other day. Marriage is being together more then ever, so why are you feeling lonely? by Laserbrain » Sat Mar 16, 2013 5:50 pm . So unhappy in my marriage (36 Posts) ... but in the last couple of weeks I have joined a couple of dance/exercise keep fit groups and I am going out on my own much more with friends hoping he will take the hint. My husband makes me feel so lonely. Do not do this to yourself. We are poles apart. This quiz will help you to establish whether you’re experiencing some of the tell-tale signs of a mental health condition. Open Discussions about Marriage and Divorce. He went to bed tonight and I had tears in my eyes from him being grouchy before he went to bed. Quiz Are you depressed? But what do i do? I just feel stuck, doing the same boring retail work daily, while having no friends or anything to look forward to my weekends. I wasn’t desired or wanted by anyone, career or private life," the model says of battling anxiety and depression during her marriage. We seemed to communicate well. 95 95. This is exactly where I am at in my life, marriage and relationships. Feeling: I felt regretful and embarrassed; Automatic thoughts: I know my boss hates me now. Personally - and I am not being a martyr - I couldn't create the havoc a seperation would cause in my children's lives. We are in our own worlds just doing our duties to keep the marriage alive. My belief is that, at least as often, undiagnosed depression antedates and causes divorce. I made a mistake and will do better in the future. Your marriage can be disabled by boredom and apathy, and even die from emotional malnutrition and neglect. I no longer have any mental, emotional or physical energy to give. It's … I am 5 months pregnant with our first child. I failed to develop social skills during the marriage because i focused on depression and counseling as I isolated. In the last 2 years or so we grew distant and the intimacy has become almost none-existing. Being told what to do conveys that the other person is the boss and you are a servant. I don't tell him a lot of times what is on my mind because of the way he acts. He ignores me all the time to play stupid games. I am worried about my marriage. Feeling trapped + lonely in my marriage. A s humans, we are not meant to be isolated. Lonely in my marriage. To me life is for living and I don’t want to stay in every night and all weekend existing like I am in a care/rest home. Submitted: 9 years ago. He does not notice this and he thinks that we are just fine. He switched jobs so I won't have health insurance for 60 days. Vinny June 22, 2015, 7:48 am. Nothing help, my marriage is like living with roommate, no communication, no love, My husband is untisocial and I lost most of my friends,because of this, over the years. I can not find joy in anything. I am not a label. Heather just found this site good to know I’m not alone.Lost my wonderful husband of 50 years on Jan.2,2018 to cancer.Managed to keep him home TIL 4 days before he passed but he was not a complainer and we didn’t realize how sick he was we got to say our goodbyes.I am so miserable without him as we were inseparable.Get mad when I see couples together.We had so many plans especially for … Every time I tell him I feel lonely in our marriage, he either ignores me or says I’m insecure. It is not nice and very hard to overcome when no one is there to help you keep your chin up. Ask Your Own Mental Health Question. Lonely, that’s not really what you should feel in a marriage. 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