is it possible to cheat on someone while u love them? don't people who cheat realize that if the other person founds out he/she will be amazingly hurt and in the end leave you?is cheating really worth the risk of loosing the person you are with? When you cheat what you take away from someone is the right to the truth. How can you claim to love someone and then betray them and cheat on them?" And, I have to tell you that you likely won't understand the answer. After hearing a few stories i said "if anyone cheats on me it is completely over b/c that means they have no love or respect for me." The Scientific Reason People Cheat On Those They Love | YourTango toggle navigation It’s not fair to take away someone’s choice. Suddenly everything in the past feels like a lie as they run over details that used to make them smile they can’t anymore. When you cheat what you take away from someone is disbelieving in love. According to Helen Fisher, there is a real reason why people cheat on people they do love. So me and my friend (female) got into a minor debate. You have every right to ask them. According to me, love has no pinpoint definition. You can "love them" but not be "IN love with them" as the saying oh so bittersweetly goes.I should know been in a situation where I have had someone cheat on me. Because what you teach them is it’s a lie. if it is possible,how can that be? For one, love may mean something and for someone else it may mean something else. Her and her boyfriend have been together for seven years, they both have had their fair shares of cheating. Yes, you can still love them, and naturally when in love with someone, you want them to yourself; however, you have to realize that can't be so. You would be putting your own short term wants above their happiness and risking your relationship with them. I very much understand these questions. If you loved them you wouldn’t want to hurt them or risk losing them. If you are in a monogamous relationship where you are aware it will cause the other person pain to be cheated on then no I don’t think you can cheat and love them. He explained at one point where he loved me more than he loved her, he still loved her, like she took up part of his love. "You can love someone and not cheat on them," she replied? It's hard for wives who were faithful in their marriages even when things were difficult to understand how someone else made a different choice. How can you live a lie with someone and allow them to live that lie when you supposedly love them? It’s not fair to take away someone’s choice. As for the wowan who cheats on her husband as then goes on to say she loves him more than anything, she obviously doesn't love him more that she loves herself.